Education is important because it helps us understand the world around us and this is a very important example we are going to see today, to which a lot of people are oblivious despite it influencing their lives drastically.
After witnessing a 15-year-old boy impregnate a 13-year-old girl, a question came into my mind, how was this even possible? With further observation, I noticed some kids as small as 5-year-old be very attracted to the opposite sex and when you go to any nightclub, you can see so many people oozing with emotions towards total strangers.
The consensus would be to blame it on "love,” but what is it exactly? And how can it affect people of different age groups like that. I am sure you might have a clear definition of what love is in your mind, The question you should ask yourself is if this is something you came to understand or if this is innate in you. Assuming it's the former then that means you need intelligence and consciousness to be in love but assuming its the latter, then that means there are processes in your body that you qualify as being in love and that's what we are going to see today.
What are hormones ?
These are chemical messengers produced in our bodies whose role is to regulate a wide range of physiological processes, including metabolism, growth and reproduction. They exert a profound influence on our emotions and behaviour by interacting directly with our brains. One of the most well known hormone is the “stress hormone” called Cortisol, which triggers our fight-or-flight response.
It doesn’t matter who you are; when there is danger, your body is instantly going to switch to either fighting or fleeing from that danger, it's literally impossible to see a person who will just stand still in the face of danger without moving a finger, unless they have a mental problem. This shows you that no matter what you think or feel, your body will always react to this hormone in a specific way, Put 100 people in front of a lion and their reaction will be the same, either to fight or to flee.
What I want you to realize here is that we have very little power to overcome what these hormones compel us to do. Once they are produced, our bodies react to them automatically, regardless of what we want or feel.
The Influence of Hormones on Lust and Desire
Among all those hormones, we now have a hormone whose role is for reproduction. Testosterone and estrogen, for both men and women, respectively, they play a role in regulating our sexual desire. I am not a biologist, so I won’t go in dept into all the science but basically, the more these hormones are produced, the more sexually active you become, which explains why a 15-year-old would be compelled to reproduce despite it being inappropriate for his age.
In their minds, they justify it as being deeply in love with each other, but the reality is just an overproduction of these hormones in their bodies.
In the same way, the fact that you think you are in love with that girl or that boy, and you feel sexual desire towards that person is just a consequence of the production of this hormone in your body, which compels you to be attracted to that person and to seek to reproduce.
If this isn’t the case, then ask yourself why your love for that person is always associated with sexual desire ?
When are these hormones produced?
Once these hormones are produced, your brain or willpower have very little say-so again, and your body moves automatically. Actually, the reality is even different, these hormones compel your brain and your willpower to do whatever it takes to make this happen.
So when are these hormones produced, then?
Like in the case of the stress hormones, which are triggered when there is danger, these hormones are triggered by very specific circumstances, for example; the smell or view of the opposite sex, they are also produced automatically, for females through their cycle, also when we view the qualities we define as beauty. Any time you see a person you view as handsome or beautiful, these hormones are triggered, which means literally every day.
Love is a permanent state we are in, it just varies in intensity. The danger comes in when this hormone is produced in large quantities or triggered regularly and this can be done by exposing the person to constant stimulus through explicit pictures or constant contact with the opposite sex, this leads the person to a constant urge which makes them restless until it has been satisfied.
Sidenote: This is precisely why x-movies are age restricted, triggering these hormones for older people is okay because they have ways of satisfying them, but doing so for younger people is dangerous because they have no way of dealing with them.
You have no choice
I am sure you might be thinking that you are in control, you choose who you love and you can control yourself but let me ask you this, if you were standing infront of a lion, besides fighting or fleeing, what else could you do? Definitely not try to pet it, regardless of what you want to do, your body will move on its own,
The same is true with drugs, no matter your willpower, there is no way you can take drugs without becoming addicted. The same also goes for these reproduction hormones, the more they get produced, the more “in love” you will feel and the more you will seek to be with that person and try to reproduce.
In all these scenarios, you can use your willpower to try to resist but eventually passed a certain threshold, even your willpower can’t save you anymore.
This explains why even children can think they are in love even without understanding what it means, how people can meet total strangers in a night club and think they are in love even without knowing the name of that person, and why you feel compelled to reproduce with the person you are in love with.
Exceptions
Imagine you become friends with this lion, like in the case of zookeepers and some influencers right now, people who literally live among lions, What happens is that you no longer view them as a threat and in your mind, they no longer represent danger. Which means that standing in front of them will no longer trigger the production of the stress hormone.
In the case of love, the same applies to our relatives, we aren’t compelled to reproduce with them because we’ve become so accustomed to them that it no longer triggers the production of these hormones, but for every other person, it would be forbidden to have two persons of opposite sexes sleep on the same bed or come in close contact for too long because it doesn’t matter what you think, these hormones are going to be triggered.
What you can do
The first thing I want you to understand is that, to a certain extent, love is independent of your willpower, but we can’t fall in love with everybody, so we have to learn how to circumvent the effects of these hormones on us. This is done by;
— Practicing Mindfulness: controlling our thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations. Don’t just react to all the sensations or feelings you have; be aware of what you feel and want to do at all times.
— Engage in Healthy Habits: avoid things which can trigger the production of these hormones excessively, like x-movies and close contact with the opposite gender
— Foster Emotional Intelligenc: develop skills for recognizing and managing intense emotions such as lust, anger, and jealousy in constructive ways
— Cultivate Healthy Relationships: surround yourself with supportive and nurturing people that encourage you emotionally
Conclusion
Love, despite what we think and feel, is independent of our control, it is just the result of some hormonal imbalance in our body which compels us to reproduce with the opposite gender. This has unfortunately led some people to do wrong things or inappropriate things, thinking that was what they really wanted, meanwhile it was just the result of the invisible puppeteer controlling our every action. Do you have another explanation? Let me know in the comment section
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